Over the weekend, I went out with some girlfriends and had a few cocktails over several hours. I had a few glasses of wine at dinner and then we went out to a tequila bar and I had to get a margarita. I mean, we were at a tequila bar, right? I didn’t get home until after 1 AM and fell immediately asleep, snuggled up with the pup.
Well, the next morning was painful. I should have said no to the margarita and yes to water. I paid for my fun. And it got me thinking about all the things I did in my early 20’s that are much different now, like being able to function the day after a night on the town!
Here’s a college picture of Vinn and me dressed up as Mickie and Minnie for a “famous couples” date party in college. Yikes.
I can’t party like I used to. As noted above, I can’t party like I used to. I used to start getting ready to go out on the town with my girlfriends in college at 10 PM. Nowadays, I am getting ready for bed a half hour before that. I used to be able to go out and dance the night away every weekend. As a 28.5 year old, I can do that about once every few months. Although, side note, German bars are much different than US bars. No one dances, even at dance clubs. They sorta just move in their little zones, kinda like how Hitch taught Albert to dance in Hitch. I also used to be able to be able to come home at 2:30 AM, get up the next day at 8:30 and go study for a test, take a nap and do it all over again. Those days are long gone.
I’m less concerned with what others are doing. The comparison trap is real. In my early 20’s I would compare where I was with where my friends and acquaintances with me. And if someone else was further along in their career or someone was engaged, I would feel like, “What am I doing with my life? Why aren’t I getting X, Y or Z?” Now I’ve realized that who cares where other people are in life. It’s best to focus on my own life, stay in my own lane. Plus, you never know what is happening behind closed doors. Someone who has a seemingly perfect life has his/her own problems, too. I’m on my own journey and everything will work out for a reason.
Close friends are way more important now. Being in a sorority, I was always surrounded by ten or twenty other girls, pretty much at all times. I definitely had a larger circle of friends before, but never got super deep with that many people. And now I know that having better friendships with less people is what’s more important. I’d rather have five great friends than a group of ten “okay” friends. And it is hard to find quality friends, those people who will be there for you through the good times and the bad. I am very lucky to have my friendships and I cherish them.
I can’t eat like I used to. I’ve never had a super high metabolism and I think I still had my baby fat until I was 20. But, I could eat pretty much whatever I wanted because I was on sports teams and exercised enough to stay the same weight. As I approach 30, I can’t even look at a french fry without gaining a pound. I am much more concerned and focused on my health, what I eat and how much I exercise. I want to be as healthy as possible, so it’s a good thing that I don’t eat the way I used to.
What are things that you do that are different from 10 years ago?
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